Community Guidelines

What these guidelines are

These are the draft house rules for people using Vesper at https://vesperdating.app, operated by [COMPANY LEGAL NAME]. Effective date: [EFFECTIVE DATE]. They sit alongside the Terms of Service and the Privacy Policy. A lawyer has not reviewed them.

The app also shows a short house-rules list before you can open Discover, post, or join Kink Lane. Accepting that list stores a version and a time. These pages are the longer draft. Read both.

Adults only

You must be 18 or older. Enter a true date of birth. The server checks it. Accounts for minors, and accounts that misrepresent age, will be closed.

Nothing in Vesper may sexualize anyone under 18. That includes photos, drawings meant to depict a real minor, role descriptions, and requests. Do not post words or images that seek, trade, or describe sexual conduct with a minor. This rule has no exception for fiction, role-play, or “they said they were 18.”

How you show up

• Use a handle in community, not your legal name.
• You are responsible for what you post.
• Do not post phone numbers, emails, social handles, links, or street addresses. Several text fields reject those patterns.
• Do not post a way to find someone at home.
• Meetups, if you list one, name a public place. Vesper does not run the meetup or check who shows up.

Photos and other people

You need the rights to every image you upload, and consent from every identifiable person in it. Consent has to cover the sexual context if the image is intimate. Non-consensual intimate images are prohibited, including images taken or shared without consent, and images shared in revenge or to harass.

Public album photos can be seen by any signed-in member. Secret album photos stay hidden until you are paired with that member and you approve them. Do not upload anyone under 18 into either album, or as a portrait.

Kink Lane

Kink Lane is optional and adults-only. It requires your date of birth and the current house rules. Activity there still follows these guidelines. Consensual adult interests are the point of the lane. Anything involving a minor is forbidden there the same as everywhere else. Non-consensual conduct is forbidden. Vanilla members are not shown Kink Lane rooms, posts, or meetups.

Notes

Notes are sealed in your browser. The server does not see the words, so it cannot scan them. You are still responsible for them. Room titles, summaries, and meetup text are visible and are screened for contact details and for content involving anyone under 18. There is no recovery code for sealed notes. If you lose this browser’s key, you lose the ability to read them.

How to report

Sign in, open Community, and choose Report on a note or a meetup. You can report each item once. You can file up to 10 reports in an hour.

The current screens do not put a Report button on a room, a profile card, a portrait, or an album photo. To report those, or anything the button does not cover, write to [APPEALS CONTACT EMAIL]. Include what you saw and where. Do not include a copy of sexual material involving a minor. Say that it is there and stop.

What a report does

The report is stored with your account id, the item, and the time. There is no written-reason field.

A note, meetup, or room is hidden when three different members have reported it and those reports were made within the same 24 hours. Reports spread out over a longer time do not add together under that rule, and you cannot report the same item again. Posts from the house account stay up even if they are reported.

People with a staff role can read reports. There is no member-facing appeal form and no restore button on the current screens. The software can let the content owner restore their own hidden item, and that restore deletes the reports on it. Until a screen exists for that, write to [APPEALS CONTACT EMAIL].

Minors, non-consensual content, and law enforcement

Vesper has no tolerance for child sexual content or for non-consensual intimate images. [COMPANY LEGAL NAME] will remove that material when it learns of it, close the account, and may report it to law enforcement. There is no tolerance for trafficking or for extortion.

[COMPANY LEGAL NAME] cooperates with lawful process. Preservation and disclosure requests go to [LEGAL CONTACT EMAIL]. Sealed notes are ciphertext. The service does not hold the private key, so it cannot produce the words of those notes.

Enforcement

Breaking these guidelines can mean a rejected post, a hidden item under the report rule, removal of material, or closure of the account. The automatic tools today are the text screen on bios, rooms, and meetups, and the three-report hide. A fuller staff review queue is not in the product yet. Closure of an account for a violation may require action beyond the member’s own wipe control. Write to [APPEALS CONTACT EMAIL] if you want a decision looked at again.

Safety when you meet

You are responsible for your own safety. Vesper does not run background checks and does not guarantee identity. Meet in public, tell someone you trust, and leave when you want to. The assumption of risk is also in the Terms of Service.